So I wouldn't say I went natural, I just decided to not relax my hair for a couple of months and those months became a year and then 4 months later me picking up the scissors and cutting off the the last remains of relaxed hair.
My backstory.
My first relaxer was when I was three years old. According to family members my hair was too thick to deal with so I "had" to get a relaxer. So seeing my natural hair was quite the discovery. I continued getting relaxers for the next couple of years I hated them but is it was kind of imbedded into my brain that as soon as you feel new growth it was time to relax. My aunt always did my hair and my constant routine was every couple of months was perm time. I would honestly dread the days of getting a perm because the process always took forever.
Routine
Get out the grease rub it all around my ears and hairline so I won't get burned. Having a nasty grease substance rubbed around my head makes me cringe.
Get a brush and apply the perm to each section of my hair. Which was a pain when you started to burn
After burring for 10000 years wash it out
Then conditioner
The shampoo my super sore and burnt scalp
Then condition again
Leave on for 10 min
Wash out then towel dry my hair
Grease scalp while damp then blow dry
than apply some kind of moisturize
Then straighten with a curling iron
The whole process took about 4-5 hours and as a little kid that kind of stuff can drive you crazy and just think that was from 3 yrs of age to 19.
So finally as I got older I started doing my own perms, the brand I used was motions. Finally I started applying the perm with my hands instead of using a brush since it took up too much time. Somehow when I stared doing my own perms I felt like my permed never turned out right, so I eventually went and got it done a couple of times by a professional but she was a scissor happy psycho so I stopped and resorted back to doing it myself.
When I was a junior in high school I bought my first flat iron, some 40 dollar iron from Sallys
The Damage
Boy oh boy I was not a smart cookie. I didn't know how to is the flat iron right and I was way too impatient to actually take time to do it right so I basically would flip my hair upside down and just run through it until it was straight. Without using any heat protectant(after years of using grease which I hated it I swore it off and used nothing). I eventually broke my hair off. For years I wore ponytails and suffered ponytail damage and still continued getting perms damaging the living daylights out of my hair. Eventually my hair continued breaking in the middle and got shorter and shorter.
The Dark ages. Educating myself
When I turned 19 my hair seem to get worse and worse. My hair because crinkly, matted and completely uneven. My hair in the back where it was shorter was fried and matted to my head, as you can imagine that took a huge chunk out of my self esteem. I got super depressed not knowing what to do until late night I was on youtube and stumbled across a video of this girl flat ironing her hair, then I came across a video of an Asian girl talking about her hair products. As I watched her she said something that stuck out to me. She said, "It's essential to start taking care of your hair" and that was it I knew right then and there If I want my hair to look good I need to take care of it. Why it took me so long to understand this IDK. SIMPLY TAKE CARE OF IT.
That night I went on Folica.com invested in a 100 flat iron and about a 5 heat protectants and deep conditioners and a pair of shears I went and got the "Rihanna wannabe cut". That was it I was on my path to healthy hair. I still however relaxed my hair but I started deep conditioning and being more aware of what I was doing
Vow to stop relaxing
My "Rihanna wannabe cut" didn't exactly get rid of all my damage the whole cut was pretty awful, I looked like Halle Berry in the movie Boomerrang or Becky from Roseanne when she cut her hair. One night on Jan 26 of 2009 as I rubbed relaxer in my hair I looked at myself and said why am I putting the perm on hair that is still weak and broken off I was so annoyed that, that was it. My last perm I vowed not to get a perm for at least 5 months and just focus on taking care of my hair and growing it out.
Now
That 5 months turned into a year of not relaxing and researching what Transitioning from relaxed to Natural meant. I decided to make the at least 5 months permanent. In april of 2010 I cut off the remaining bits of my relaxed hair. Visiting the site Curlynikki.com helps me out so much I visit it almost everyday.
Although my hair is still growing out and it isn't at my desired length I could not be happier with the choice I made. My natural curls are wonderful and I fully embrace them. I feel so much more empowered and aware of my hair it could punch a small child...not really lol, but yeah ,I am proud of myself that I stuck with it for this long. I just hope that if you want to transition you do it. Don't let anyone stop you or discourage you. Embrace your naturalness. It's pretty fierce.